Victim Mindset

DOWN WITH THE PATRIARCHY!

I’ve written some blogs on the Woke mindset that seems to be progressively impacting my workplace. I stated that there was previously no sexism/racism from what I have experienced. We have a high percentage of Asians that work here, and if anything, women seem to find it easier to get promoted. So I think you could argue bias towards certain minority groups, or maybe we are pretty much perfectly balanced in diversity and equity.

The “woke” mindset seems to create a “victim” culture, and often tries to rectify “issues” (read: non-existent issues) by actually creating sexism/racism that it aimed to combat. Here is an example of such a “victim”.

At work, there was a post on Viva Engage about Recycling, informing which items cannot actually be recycled, and how some councils actually end up incinerating rather than recycling. There was the following comment:

Really informative. Thanks for sharing this. What is interesting is that out of the 13 reactions, only TWO are from men (well done guys)… is it just we women who recycle the most or are most interested?!!

My initial thoughts are: what made her read the article, then check the likes, then observe that it was mainly female? Surely she has a victim mindset and is going out of her way to feel the victim and claim “sexism”, showing  clear misandry.

I was also thinking, if she has a point that 2 men and 11 women added reactions, then why was this?

• Do women more likely add a reaction to articles they read?
• Do men check Viva Engage at the end of the day, but women like to check at the start; so men haven’t read it yet?
• Do men focus on their work more, but women like slacking off?
• Do women care more about environmental issues?

If it was the case that women are more interested in the article content – recycling, is it because in their household, the woman is the one that sorts out the waste in their house? It’s quite common for families to assign certain chores, and pulling a heavy bin up your drive ready for collection could be down to the man.

I told one of my colleagues about the person’s comment and he was outraged by the comment. He did say he tends to check Viva Engage at the end of the day so hadn’t read the article yet. He also said his wife tends to put the rubbish in the bins, but he was the one to take it to the street for collection day.

He rightly pointed out that you could say “why are there no blacks/asians or Muslims/Jews commenting on the article?”.  So it seems she very much was man-hating since no other relevant demographic was called out. He made the classic point that if you switched out the word “men” for “asians” or similar, then does it sound offensive? If so, then the original statement is offensive. People seem to think it is much more acceptable to be sexist than racist, then also more acceptable to criticise men than women. 

When I checked who left reactions, everyone looked white apart from the women that posted the comment. Her profile picture was black and white, but her general looks seemed likely to be tanned, and her surname would suggest she could have some middle-eastern country heritage. I think it’s a clear case of her having a victim mindset, and seeing confirmation bias in data, leading to a clear over-reaction.

Dev.to review

Dev.to is a blogging website for developers. At one point, I had an RSS feed to it, but there’s so much content posted daily that it is impossible to read it all. Some of the blogs can give good insight into other developer’s lives and mentality. Some of the blogs have informative tips for developers. There’s also a lot of social justice awareness.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for equality, and promoting the amount of female developers, but I think a lot of people end up doing it in an obnoxious way which does nothing. I don’t think you get equality by excluding males or putting them down.

There was one blog which opened with the greeting “Hey ladies and non-binary friends!”. Not a great start to your blog when there will be a range of people reading it, but predominately men. If the blog’s content was strongly geared towards a particular demographic, then maybe it could be debated to be appropriate language. As it goes, although she was criticising behaviour in the office, it was nothing to do with male behaviour. She comments on some rubbish banter (a developer who happens to be male) had said. But the banter was nothing to do with being male, and it wasn’t against women or any other minority group. So why attack him for being male? Why exclude your blog from males?

In the comment section, I saw a man had commented on the blog. It was a polite reply and rightly advising her to stop putting her colleagues into groups. She replies “I think you’re a bit out of your depth here mate.” Not really a good thing to say to one of your readers.

Again she seemed like she had a victim mindset, seeing confirmation bias in behaviour, leading to a clear over-reaction and bringing out her misandry.

Eni Eluko 

I was discussing the drama around ex-footballer Eni Eluko with a friend. Andrew Gold speaks out against DEI practices, and invited Eni onto his Heretics podcast. Eni Eluko stated an anti-DEI stance is clear racism. Andrew asked her why 3.5 times more black presenters than white are employed by the BBC? She could only say they must be better than the white presenters. Yet, she was still adamant that DEI practices, which favour employing people from minority groups – is needed because black people are overlooked. Eni herself is a black woman who has got lots of work from the BBC.

Andrew was a victim of such DEI practices when he wanted his show commissioned by the BBC, with him presenting, and he got told they would accept if he agreed to let them choose a new host, who would be an ethnic minority – to which he refused.

Eni was recently involved in a slander case with ex-footballer and controversial, outspoken personality Joey Barton, who had criticised her ability as a football pundit and also had the views that women shouldn’t work in the men’s game. She thought it was outrageous. She more recently came under fire after saying Ian Wright, (a well-known black pundit who works on both men’s and women’s game) shouldn’t be commenting on the women’s game as he is stealing a position from the women. Not only is that exactly like Joey Barton’s opinion (sports pundits/commentators should match the gender they are working with), but Ian Wright has helped raise the profile of the women’s game, and possibly more shockingly, helped mentor Eni as a pundit. Yet she is blinded by an agenda, that she betrays a friend and someone of the same race that is allied to her cause.